When we are trapped in a repetitive pattern and struggle to break it:
- we must first make a conscious decision to change;
- through the suffering that we experience we learn, grow and progress.
We let go of the old and allow the new, better to come.
The process of "letting it go" depends on our maturity, readiness for a change and grace, which is given to us when we develop a deep sense of trust (to receive help, in creation, God ...) and go with the the flow.